As we grow through our lives, experiencing our various life stages, our soul guides our individual development. It is by fulfilling our soul’s purpose that we grow and mature. Erikson’s eight life stages explain that we go through our lives, from Birth to Death, embracing different tasks and gifts. With each life-stage change, we go through a transitional process. With awareness we can honour and embrace the changes surrounding the natural cycles of these transitions.
I have always had a yearning to be a light and inspiration to younger people, sharing the wisdom of eldership and leading by example. The energy and aliveness of young people and how they interact with technology has created a world that, although easily accessible, feels to be so disconnected.
Stepping into the role of Elder gives us the chance to slow down, and grow interconnectedness that is not technological or on the internet. This interconnection seems to be what is missing in the world right now. Personally, I feel that it is an honour to go through the transition of releasing the role of mother, caretaker, participator, and facilitator and becoming more graceful, peaceful, patient and kind, having more time to inter-connect.
In 2016, I started researching the concept of conscious ageing and connecting and having conversations with the older generation. I discovered how people over 70, who I was privileged to encounter, all spoke about the need to ‘give back’ in order to find meaning in their lives. This really touched my heart and what was clear to me is how they often didn’t acknowledge their own contribution in their role in partnership and families, as well as bringing up their children. They didn’t see how integral this is in creating a purpose and making them inspired members of society.
People often experience a disconnect between where they are in the present and the experiences from their past. There are many aspects that we pack away and forget about because of trauma, pain or just trying to get through our daily lives. By identifying and understanding these we can gain insight into how function and make the choices that affect our lives.
We have also lost our connection to our ancestors and seem to have forgotten that we are in fact ancestors in the making for future generations. In the process of exploring our life experiences, we discover gems that may be trapped behind trauma or painful memories. If we can bring these gems from our past stories into our present, as valued aspects of ourselves, and place them respectively into our ‘eldership crown’, we will have the opportunity to leave an inspired legacy for the next generations.
Based on my own life experience, my work with drumming and rhythm, my psychology training, as well as research and many conversations, Transitions to Eldership was born.
My Transitions to Eldership Workshops explore the developmental stages of the Inner Child,Free Spirit Adolescent, Creative Adult as part of integrating our soul’s journey and learning about how to Survive (and harmonize with) ourInner Critic. These aspects of self discovery, connected with the medicine wheel and the directions and elements contained therein takes you on a journey using the tools of mindfulness, rhythm, movement, journaling, play and narrative therapy and spiritual connectivity.
Transitions to Eldership Workshops:
Transitions to Eldership - Introduction
Healing the Wounded Child
Playing with the Inner Child
Who is the Inner Child Anyway?
Using Inner Child Awareness to Model Social Change
Freedom and Power - Free Spirited Adolescent Self
Being Okay with where I am right now!
Surviving our Inner Critic
Honouring yourself with Love, Compassion and Respect - 2019
Coming Up in 2020:
Medicine Wheel Awareness - Standing at the Centre of your Circle of your Life
Freedom and Power - Free Spirited Adolescent Self
Honouring our Inner Critic
Creativity and Adulting
Grace and Shadow
Honouring yourself with Love, Compassion and Respect - 2020
Online Workshops 2020:
Inner Child Work:
Who is my Inner Child
Healing Inner Child Wounds
Playing with my Inner Child
Using my Inner Child Awareness to make conscious choices
Medicine Wheel Wisdom:
Standing in the Centre of my Circle of Life
East Direction awareness
South Direction awareness
West Direction awareness
North Direction awareness
"The second half of life presents a rich possibility for spiritual enlargement, for we are never going to have greater powers of choice, never have more lessons of history from which to learn, and never possess more emotional resilience, more insight into what works for us and what does not, or a deeper, sometimes more desperate, conviction of the importance of getting our life back. . . . Just what are those inner imperatives that rise to support us and challenge us in the journey of the second half of life? Perhaps Jung’s most compelling contribution is the idea of individuation, that is, the lifelong project of becoming more nearly the whole person we were meant to be—what [God] intended, not the parents, or the tribe, or, especially, the easily intimidated or inflated ego. While revering the mystery of others, our individuation summons each of us to stand in the presence of our own mystery, and become more fully responsible for who we are in this journey we call our life. So often the idea of individuation has been confused with self-indulgence or mere individualism, but what individuation more often asks of us is the surrender of the ego’s agenda of security and emotional reinforcement, in favor of humbling service to the soul’s intent. . . . The agenda of the first half of life is predominantly . . . framed as “How can I enter this world, separate from my parents, create relationships, career, social identity?” Or put another way: “What does the world ask of me, and what resources can I muster to meet its demands?” But in the second half of life . . . the agenda shifts to reframing our personal experience in the larger order of things, and the questions change. “What does the soul ask of me?” “What does it mean that I am here?” “Who am I apart from my roles, apart from my history?” . . . If the agenda of the first half of life is social, meeting the demands and expectations our milieu asks of us, then the questions of the second half of life are spiritual, addressing the larger issue of meaning. The psychology of the first half of life is driven by the fantasy of acquisition: gaining ego strength to deal with separation, separating from the overt domination of parents, acquiring a standing in the world. . . . But then the second half of life asks of us, and ultimately demands, relinquishment—relinquishment of identification with property, roles, status, provisional identities—and the embrace of other, inwardly confirmed values." James Hollis, Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up (Gotham Books: 2005), 9-10, 86.